Best of 2009: 1. Ghosts of relationships past

You can't make people feel something they don't feel. Or so, my mama told me. Well, my proverbial mama anyway (Oprah/Ricky Lake/Tyra Banks/SJR/whoever). If my biological mother gave me relationship advice I'd die of shock.

So, 2009 was a kick in the rear end about moving on. You try to hold on to old relationships, because, dang it, if you only try hard enough, change enough, give up enough, this could work, and once it works, wouldn't it be great to know that you made it happen?

That above sentence sounded like the typical arguments I disdain in other people. And I have been feeding this denial to myself day in and day out. If only I could only take my own advice.

And while it's not the resounding success I'd hoped it'd be, I think I'm one step closer in moving on.

And, by taking a hard stance, someone gave me a valuable gift in 2009.