Sugar Daddy and Boy Toy

So I was reading all the media scrutiny regarding recent Oscar winner Tilda Swinton's personal life.

For the uninitiated, Tilda, 47, lives with her partner of 18 years, 68 years old Scottish playwright and painter, John Byrne. John and Tilda has 10 year old twins. Since 2004, she's been seeing German born New Zealander painter Sandro Kopp, who is now 29 years old. They all live in the same house in Scotland, do not own a television, and live happily ever after. John was asked by the media about this unusual arrangement, and he simply said that it was their own business.

The media shrugged it off by saying that only in Europe something like that can happen. Is it?.

Demi Moore, who is now 46, was previously married to Bruce Willis, 53, currently married to Ashton Kutcher, 31. Her oldest daughter is 20, the others 17 and 14, and the six of them are seen together all the time.

Sunil Gangopadhay's book, First Light (Prothom Alo), also shows a similar relationship of Nobel Laureate Rabindranath Tagore around 1920s. His wife, Mrinalini Devi was 15 years junior, and his intellectual partner was actually his elder brother's wife, whose name I now forget.

One argument could be that people enter into relationships like this because of children. I would argue that it is very natural to compartmentalize your needs and seek different partners who fulfill a specific need.

You could find someone who provides physical excitement and makes you feel young and alive and fresh, while intellectually you could connect with someone your own age or older, more experienced and more refined.

I think life is all about connecting with other people. You could physically connect, intellectually share ideas, share experiences of religious beliefs, share past experience with an old friend, and any and all of those relationships could be deep enough to form a bond.

Why limit yourself to the idea of "the one", when you could have so many?