Ike Turner, former husband of Tina Turner, died today at the age of 76. The bio movie, What's Love Got to Do with it, is one of my most favorite movies, I must've seen it about 10-15 times. There's this scene near the end, where Lawrence Fishburne as Ike shows up at Angela Bassett's dressing room before her first solo performance, he sizes her up and down with a gun, and gives this speech about how he will never go away. Chilling. Sadly, even after all his accomplishments as a musician, he'll always be that ex-husband.I had a contemplative moment two/three nights ago when I was thinking of the significance of December. It was one of those dates when I met someone special, and thought that we'd be Ike and Tina, Sonny and Cher, Tom and Nicole, meant to be together forever. And then things happened, and eventually, after a lot of bitterness I went my separate way.
One of my fears is to be labeled like Ike, as "that crazy ex of XYZ". I could be crazy, jealous, hateful, vindictive and all those things, but what I appreciate in my life is the opportunity to start fresh, become the good guy again, and move past all the bitterness and have a second coming. And I wish that for all my ex-es too. After a while, you only remember the good stuff and wonder what all the drama was all about.
Besides, even the movie ends with this song.
There's a pale moon in the sky
The kind you make your wishes on
Like the light in your eyes
The one I built my dreams upon
It's not there any longer
Something happened somewhere
And we both know why
But me, I'm getting stronger
We must stop pretending
I can't live this life
I don't care who's wrong or right
I don't really wanna fight no more
(Too much talking babe)
Let's sleep on it tonight
I don't really wanna fight no more
(This is time for letting go)
I hear a whisper in the air
It simply doesn't bother me
Can't you see that I don't care
Or are you you looking right through me
Seems to me that lately
You look at me the wrong way and I start to cry
Could it be that maybe
This crazy situation is the reason why
I don't care who's wrong or right
I don't really wanna fight no more
(Too much talking babe)
Let's sleep on it tonight
I don't really wanna fight no more
(Tired of all these games)
But baby don't you know
That I don't wanna hurt no more
(It's time, I'm walking babe)
Don't care now who's to blame
I don't really wanna fight no more
(This is time for letting go)
